Memoirs Of A Graduate

I bumped into my ex today. Well I say ex... I’m not even sure I’d go so far as to call it that. A brief fling many, many years ago. Anyway, after the usual chit chat he sighed and referred to me as “the one that got away.” Actually found this a little strange and made things slightly awkward for the remainder of the conversation; but it did send my mind off on a tangent.

‘The one who got away’. How do people come apart? I also had this conversation with my flatmate last night. Apart from the obvious; cheating, abuse – the general precedents of a bad relationship, what is it that stops us from being in love with who we have been for weeks, months, years of our lives? I think a massive part of it is giving up to easy.

 

People want perfection where it does not exist. Girls are raised on Disney movies where Prince Charming is a handsome, polite, devoted and rich male. He drops anything to come to his loves aid, sweeps her away and they live ‘happily ever after’. Similarly men are raised on history lessons were woman are doting loving wives who stay at home in an apron all day and have dinner on the table when they get in. Sex is a duty a woman should provide and there should be no quarrels if he wants to go drink alcohol and smoke cigarettes with his buddies. Ok I know this is all a little dated but you’d be surprised the number of men who still feel this way. Also ... side note here. Guys need to get out their head that woman 'put out' and give you sex as some sort of treat. Girls enjoy sex just as much as guys (if not sometimes more). But anyway I'm spiralling off again so ...

 

What people need to realise is that every single couple goes through shit. No one has a perfect relationship, everyone argues about money issues, trust issues, all sorts. That being said though, couples sometimes aren’t right for each other which begs the question what brings them together in the first place. It kind of sucks that human’s aren’t naturally monogamous and you have to go through that whole irritating processes of schoolgirl crushes, first loves, heartbreaks – the works. Even when you are with some and you’re happy you don’t truly know they’re ‘the one’. But then is there even such thing as soulmates. I don’t think there is anymore, I mean I think there are people right and wrong for each other but not just one single person on this Earth out of 6 billion compatible to you. It’s a nice and comforting thought though to think that there is someone for everyone out there, and that I believe.

 

Anyway moving on, bit about me now. Life is good, I haven’t yet found a job OR a career (though I have an interview next week so fingers crossed for that). But I’m happy. Had a great shoot yesterday and another potentially amazing one that I’m very excited for next weekend. I’ve decided to start using my time productively though to get organised, if I’m not going to be working then I may as well be doing something useful. So, the new ‘list’.

1. Sort out my current room and my old room in my parents – sell anything I no longer need on ebay or give to charity. No more hoarding.
2. Take up some form of exercise to get fit and toned.
3. Sort out mine and Jake’s new place ready to move into.
4. Stop buying things I don’t need, junk food namely and instead save up the money to buy a camera.
5. Pursue photography further - maybe even make some cash out of it.

 Ok so it’s not a massive list granted but the less I aim to do the more likely I am to get it done, or so I figure. Also setting up my new business venture – which eventually will have it’s own website. Infact.

 

6. Create website for business venture.

 

And what is it you might ask? Well, CV’s. It’s not going to be a lot. I figure, £5 for a CV. £5 for a cover letter. Or £8 for the two together. Maybe if you want job specific ones then bump the price up a little. But to be honest, it’s something not a lot of people really know how to do and I seem to be okay at it so, I guess it can’t hurt... and a little extra money coming in is always nice, I might actually be able to go for drinks with people then. Or delve into Jane Norman’s delicious new summer stock..... *sigh*